We all want to raise confident, kind, happy, and self-reliant children with high self-esteem yet we forget that children learn by observing and then they mirror what they see and hear.
They tend to generally do as you do, not as you say!
The secret to raising your children to become what you would love them to be is to be like that yourself, in other words you need to possess these qualities first and then walk your talk. Only when you live an authentic life, true to your heart will you be able to hold the space for your children to do the same.
As a parent your job is to not be your child’s best friend growing up but the person who sets boundaries, providing the foundation for them to learn who they truly are, what they love, what their strengths are and weaknesses so that when they reach adulthood they are equipped with the skill set needed to navigate life.
Your words need to be chosen with care as they hold the power to influence your children’s mindsets, belief systems and how they see themselves. The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice, their inner critic.
It is your responsibility to ensure that your daily attitude reflects your core values so your actions are aligned with your life’s purpose ensuring that you are an example, a role model that is a healthy point of orientation and reference for your children. While they learn to make the right choices for themselves so they can also become their own unique confident being.
To raise confident children you first have to raise yourself to be a confident adult, you have to be what you want your children to become. This is easier than you think and my suggestion is that you start with self-care.
Here is a list of Happy Habits to start with.
| Air | Belly Breathing |
| Water | 1.5 – 2 liters a day |
| Nutrition | Natural Food |
| Exercise | 20mins a day |
| Sleep | 6-8hrs a night |
| Relaxation | 1 full day a week |
| Meditation | Traditional & Mindful Active |
| Laughter | Everyday |
| Gratitude | Everyday |
| Kindness | Everyday |
For further insights on how I balanced being a present single mom with my daughters and an successful entrepreneur, running my own business click here: https://thehealingroom.co.za/my-story-of-being-a-single-mom-and-entrepreneur/
I am running a FREE parenting master class on how to raise conscious beings on 30th June 2021 click here to join: https://thehealingroom.co.za/product/raising-conscious-beings-free-gift-for-you-30th-june-2/
In love, light and happiness
Debbie Taylor
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